Discovering the Upside of Letting Go
As I watch the leaves drop on this crisp Autumn day I am reminded of the inevitability of change. I know that this is a difficult time for many people as they witness nature purging itself and moving into its’ early stages of dormancy. It is, after all, our human tendency to see the beauty in the growth and miss the magic in the shedding. We want to grasp our gains and continue to accumulate more, not realizing that this “gripping” compromises the overall well-being and balance of our lives.
The state of health of our bodies, minds, and souls literally depends on these mini-cycles of birth, growth, death, and regeneration which exist within the bigger cycles we have come to accept as our life cycle. Could it be that when we resist these mini death and rebirth experiences we actually hasten rather than prevent our aging? Is inflexibility and the failure to adapt to these smaller seasons the true cause of disease and ultimately the decline of our physical being?
While it is often uncomfortable to let go, we must if we wish to continue to thrive. You see, shedding serves many crucial roles for us. What we let go of becomes the fertilizer for our continued growth. Our past helps us to create an even more impressive blueprint for new dreams and desires. Purging or stripping down, allows us to get more in touch with our true essence. Who are we at our core? Who are we in our most exposed and vulnerable states? Furthermore, isn’t it easier to travel into uncharted territory without the burden of excess? With less to take care of isn’t it easier to entertain more of the untapped potential within? Unhindered, we can enter into the world of our imagination where we can plant the seeds for new life.
Where the human eye sees decay and death a tremendous bustling of activity is occurring. Old life is transforming into new life and we are entering into new dimensions of reality. Look at your life carefully. What must be released now? What relationships, beliefs, habits, jobs and physical clutter needs shedding in order for transformation to happen? Shed, let go, release, eliminate and liberate yourself!
The beginning of the school year has always symbolized fresh starts for me more powerfully than New Year's Day. Perhaps because my brain has been trained to shift gears in September from all of those years I was in school followed by the years my children have been there. We are currently moving from summer's low gear and waking up our brains.
This is the time of year that I feel most ready to learn new things. I love taking on a new challenge and setting goals, I get the impulse to buy my very own school supplies and organize my desk. Never-the-less the lessons have changed with each passing year. Now they don't always appear in such obvious ways, written out on a blackboard. There is no teacher making me accountable and asking to see my homework and most of the time there is no warning that a test is coming next Tuesday.
I miss those days when life's lessons were spelled out and scored. There was little question as to whether or not I was properly grasping the knowledge. Adulthood is different in that way. The lessons can slip in subtly and sometimes you have no idea there is even a lesson on tap. Sometimes the lesson needs to show up multiple times until repetition, complication, and failure finally wakes us up.
Our lessons in adulthood are easy to resist as well, most likely because the focus pulls inward and we are called to learn more about our inner selves rather than the world outside us. Years of training have created a keen ability to look outside of ourselves. As adults we are called to "Know thyself." We begin to see that the world outside cannot change without changing our reaction to it and that there is no lesson more important than that of inner peace.
There is no perfect manual for the lesson of inner peace. We all have to create our own handbook because what works for me may not work for you. We become the observers of chaos in order to identify what feels bad and dig deep into our hearts and souls to inquire what feels better. We wrestle with our monkey mind, we act from fear, we resist the "ugly", until we reach a crisis. It's often at this point, "The Test," that we realize the lesson has changed from one of force, pushing out into the world and conquering, to one of surrendering the struggle and allowing the flow of life to bring what we need and desire to us.
So while my brain is waking up from its summer haze, I see that the new lessons being presented are not about effort and meeting well-defined goals. The lesson is about non-resistance and allowing. Seems easy enough, but we humans are always looking for a fight or expecting things to come through a lot of hard work rather than ease. Does it have to be that way? Maybe not.
Life has a magical way of coming full circle and I find myself returning to the many lessons my father taught me as a child, which were not taught as much through his words as through his deeds. One of these lessons is this... GROW WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED.
Perhaps it is the Leo in me or an unconscious quest to find my true home, but I was born with a restless soul. Regardless, it wasn’t until recently, staring 49 in the face, that I would come to more fully appreciate the lessons of simplicity and contentment that my father taught through the example of his life.
My father never moved far from his childhood home. This, I believe, instilled in him a deep connection to the community and the very soil he walked on. There is something to be said about all those years of bearing witness to “progress” (real progress as well as “so-called” progress).
My father was an amazing storyteller. He could paint the most vivid pictures in my head of all the many shenanigans that he took part in along that little piece of the Jersey Shore when he was a just a young boy. That boy became a man, a father, a business owner in the same home town that grew him. At every hardware shop, mom & pop restaurant, and bank we walked into with him within a 30 mile radius, someone would greet him by his first name and a big smile. He made a strong impression wherever he went.
My dad’s size, firm tone, and “I mean business” eye contact could put the fear of God into any misbehaving adolescent or unsuspecting boy attempting to date one of his daughters. Yet it could never be said that this man was anything but fair, funny and kind-hearted and to all who took the time to roll up their sleeves and work alongside him, he was considered a bit of a backyard sage. If you could show him respect through your time and a willingness to be his “apprentice” you had him won-over and he would impart his wisdom on you. As anyone who knew my father could attest, this small investment of your time and energy, paid great dividends.
It was in these privileged moments of being this man’s “sidekick” that many, including myself, learned the most valuable lessons of our lives (and a few a his favorite rated “R” jokes). He not only taught the value of being a quintessential father and family man, he taught the importance of work ethic and taking pride in your land, in your country, and in a job well done. He taught you how to hold a flashlight (for hours) while he repaired your car in the dark with his own two hands while he was patiently teaching you how to fix it yourself should you ever need to. Okay so “patient” may be a slight overstatement as there were a few “choice” swear words to be endured about non-American made parts, but he was patient in the sense that he never gave up on his project or on his student.
My father was a father to all who knew him. Many called him Dad and he took this role very seriously not just with his own children but with the many friends of his children. He taught us all how to build sheds, grow gardens, fish, throw an awesome BBQ, and explore every little road and backwoods trail of those sandy, piney, southern Jersey towns while trying to “get lost”. He was never lost!
My father taught us all to grow where we were planted and even though many of us have blown in the wind like dandelion seeds, traveling to far away places, we have all learned how to create strong roots where we land and thrive in whatever conditions we face because of his guidance. It took many years for this dandelion seed to “land,” but I believe I have at long-last found the best place I call “home,” the place I feel that special connection to. As I truly embrace this land where I have planted, I hear my father’s voice. In those moments when I am busy digging in the dirt of my backyard and a red cardinal flies past, I am reminded that he is watching and that he is proud.
Happy Father’s Day To My Daddy in Heaven
Looking at the damp ground and the trees with their ever-so-tiny buds forming I am feeling the energy of hope and renewal vibrating from all around me. Everything is brimming and ready to bust forth into life. I thought this would be the perfect time to bring up the subject of “Grounding”.
I’m sure many of you have heard this term thrown around a bit but what exactly does grounding mean? How do we know when and in which ways to exercise it? I would like to take some of the mystery out of this subject with an easy interpretation and some quick tips for getting the wonderful benefits out of your grounding practice.
Have you ever felt scattered, rushed, anxious, or panicky? Of course you have. Unfortunately for most of us these are not uncommon states. However, they are indicators letting us know it is time to “ground” our energy. I think of these states as energy gone willy-nilly, like a live wire. At times our energy accumulates in the “upper chakras” of our energy bodies which correlate with our minds and thought. When you feel as though you can’t get out of your head, this is the ideal time to practice grounding. Grounding pulls our energy downward, hence restoring our energy body’s natural balance and promoting emotional and physical well-being.
We are electrical beings and therefore making a connection to the earth helps our personal energy to operate more effectively, not unlike grounding electrical wires to prevent currents from becoming destructive. It is important to understand that grounding isn’t a practice to be used all of the time. If you are feeling lethargic and heavy in your energy you may actually be grounding too much. In which case, the key then is to stimulate or excite. If however, you are feeling about to blow a fuse here are a few quick ways you can ground your energy.
I hope you find these simple tips useful as you experience the massive amount of energy that this season brings. As the surge of new life takes hold remember the importance of grounding!
If you are an empath, not only is self-care important it is necessary. As empaths know, being highly sensitive to other's emotional energies can leave you feeling like Atlas holding the world on your shoulders. Overtime this takes both an mental and physical toll.
While it is nearly impossible for the empath to simply stop caring, there are ways to help minimize the negative effects of caring too much. Here are 3 ways you can reduce the stress and find a healthy balance between caring for yourself and caring for others.
1. Give yourself space.
While some people are energized when they spend time with others, the empath is typically drained. If you are an empath, you'll need to both recognize and honor the need for more space. Sometimes this may mean physically distancing yourself. Let's take for example a crowded dinner party commonly teaming with a whole host of different energies. It can be helpful to take note of a quiet spot (even if it's a bathroom) for occasional breaks. Slip away for a few minutes for some long deep breaths, consciously releasing any emotional energy that doesn't belong to you.
In addition to these smaller pockets of space it is also in your best interest to block off larger spaces as well. Build time into each day for things like mediation and connecting with nature as well as a rest day within your busy week and regular vacations throughout the year. If you are spending your downtime with someone else, be sure to communicate your need for quiet and space in order to recharge and center yourself.
2. Cleanse your energy field.
Empaths pick up the energies of those around them. This is sticky business! These energies and emotions tend to latch on and accumulate. This can result in chronic moodiness, stress, and even physical problems such as headaches, ulcers, and fatigue. To prevent this plaque from building up it is essential that the empath find methods for cleaning up their personal energy on a regular basis. Practices and techniques such as reiki, yoga, massage, and meditation are key to releasing what does not belong in your energy field. Make sure to add these or any others methods you find detoxifying to your calendar as a priority rather than an afterthought.
3. Fortify yourself.
Sometimes it just isn't possible to avoid all situations that may impact your energy in negative ways and that is why #3 is particularly important. A good analogy here is to think of your empathy as if it were hayfever. It is nearly impossible to eliminate your exposure to pollen entirely because pollen is blowing in the air all around you (unless you choose to live in a bubble). There are ways however to make your body stronger and less susceptible to an allergy attack. There are supplements you can take and nutritional changes you can make to lessen the severity of the exposure.
Then same is true with fortifying our personal energy field. A piece of this is explained in #2 where we discussed regular energy cleansing, but there are also things you can do in a moments notice to strengthen your field so that the energies around you don't attach or accumulate. Much of this can be done through bringing your attention to the present moment. When you remain present it is easier to identify energies that is not yours attempting to make their way in. Stand tall, take a deep breath, and imagine yourself as a screen door that allows everything to flow through rather than attach. This type of fortification does not require you to become inflexible or "fight" but will aid you in knowing you have control and the ability to avoid taking on emotions that are not your own. In addition to this technique create a peaceful visualization or an affirmation you can use on the fly to keep you centered and calm.
With these tips for self-care you should be able to manage your personal energy and continue doing good work in this world without feeling the prolonged and often chronic effects associated with being an empath.
A Peek Inside the Empath’s World
Living and relating in the invisible field
To the person who is an empath it may be difficult to imagine that other people experience the world and those around them quite differently. Empaths come from an innate perspective that everything and everyone is connected even if they don’t quite understand or outwardly acknowledge this perspective.
Empaths are often described at sponges, which is a fairly accurate description, but the reason they are so is because it is hard for them to distinguish any boundaries that exist between them and the rest of the world. As a result, empaths are quick to notice the emotional “tone” of a room and if they aren’t careful, can soon find themselves absorbing that tone even if it is an undesirable one.
An interesting discovery I’ve made in working with empaths (and being one myself) is that empaths often take for granted that not everyone is wired similarly. Empaths tend to be particularly intuitive and tapped into the invisible energies around them. This ability, while often considered a gift, can bring with it a whole host of unique concerns. In addition to the well-known emotional stress empaths experience from being so energetically absorbent, they tend to also have some other lesser-known responses in common. These responses can make for some challenging and confusing relationships between them and less-empathic people.
Here are just a few ways in which the empath may respond differently than others to the world around them-
1. Empaths, being particularly intuitive to the needs and desires of others, commonly experience high levels of frustration when their loved ones, friends and co-workers are not as sensitive to theirs. Rather than directly asking for what they need they may assume others should already know.
2. Empaths, being accustomed to the world of non-verbal forms of communication, often have difficulty finding their own “voice”. It’s hard to chime in, especially in group settings, when you are dealing with the onslaught of energetic noise. When an empath is feeling this type of overwhelm it’s just easier to take the backseat in conversations.
3. Empaths commonly live their lives in accordance with unseen energies they are receiving and interpreting. Frequently they make their decisions based heavily on this subtle information or intuition. As a result, empaths often feel judged or misunderstood by others who respond only to what can be experienced with the five senses.
4. Empaths, being highly sensitive, often suffer from auto-immune conditions or allergies in response to chemicals and synthetic products. Even on a cellular level they are picking up and reacting to substances that are an unnatural fit for their bodies. Those who have a less sensitive systems may assume the empath is just being a picky or even judge them as being a hypochondriac when they are indeed having a real physiological response to their environment.
5. Empaths, because they can frequently sense potential danger, may have a tendency towards worry and fear. Unfortunately these reactions can limit their quality of life and their relationships if the empath does not find ways to distinguish true life-threatening danger from common everyday challenges.
While I’m sure there are many characteristics of empaths that I may not have shared here, my intent is to shed light on some that are not typically discussed. Whether you are an empath or someone who loves one, my hope is that this list helps to create a bridge between our differences and opens up dialogue that strengthens our bonds.
5 Ways That Time is On Your Side
Time is on my side, yes it is.
~ The Rolling Stones
Are we cursed by time? It often seems that way. There never seems to be enough of it, but on the other hand it passes too quickly. We are constantly dreaming about ways to speed it up, slow it down, manage it, or manipulate it to better serve us. Do we ever stop to imagine what life would be like without good ole father time? Are we prepared to live an existence without the measurement of hours, days, years, it gives us?
I think it is finally time to stop stressing about time. Why? Well because it is here to serve us and until we understand its value it will continue to be part of this earthly experience.
How is time serving us? Well here are a few ways I can think of that may help you to better appreciate the value of time-
1. Time heals.
Lucky for us time gives us a sense of distance from painful experiences such as loss of a loved one or a traumatic event. Time does seem to have a healing effect. As months and years pass grief and painful emotions naturally lessen their grip on us.
2. Time calls us to action.
Although we are far too often caught up in the frustration of feeling limited by time, such as when we're in a hurry to meet a deadline, time gives us parameters and prompting. It helps us to plan out the execution of important goals in a way that encourages completion. The results we get at the end of tight timelines often give us some of the greatest feelings of achievement as we prove to ourselves just what we are capable of.
3. Time marches on.
With time comes wisdom. We learn to leave the trouble of the past behind and embrace whatever may come our way. Time gives us continuous opportunities to fix mistakes, learn new things, and leave our foot print on this world.
4. Time stands still.
If we are lucky we get to experience the phenomenon of time standing still. This happens when we are truly present to the moment we’re in and fully engaged in what is taking place around us. Being present makes us feel as though hours have been experienced in just a few short minutes. Very cool indeed and a nice contrast to the feeling of limitation time often presents us with.
5. Time protects us from ourselves.
Now, if you believe like I do, that ours thoughts create our realities, then you can more clearly see how time protects us. We often grow impatient when what we wish for, imagine, and work towards just doesn’t seem to show up fast enough. Perhaps this is because we are not managing the quality of the thoughts our mind entertains. Those hopes and dreams of ours are typically mixed up in a bag along side of our insecurities, doubts, and fears. Can you imagine if time no longer existed and we could manifest all our thoughts into reality instantaneously? We'd just as quickly manifest our fears as well. What a disaster that would be for the existence of our species! With the help of time, however, we are more able to course correct our thinking to create better, or at least more neutral, outcomes.
Perhaps, once we have mastered our minds, there will be no need for time and therefore it will cease to exist but for now let’s be grateful that time…truly is… on our side!
So you call yourself a Psychic...
I have an on-going struggle identifying myself as a Psychic Medium. Yes, I have an ability that helps me to see how future events are likely to unfold and yes, I also have an ability to see through the “veil” and connect with spirit guides but I find more comfort in calling myself an Intuitive Advisor. That is the title that speaks more to what I actually do. Granted the title Psychic Medium has its advantages because, let’s face it, it makes me more searchable on Google where there are millions of people desperately typing those keywords into their search bars hoping to find answers to their uncertain love lives, stagnated careers, and low bank accounts. Quite honestly, I do believe I have the ability to help these people when they stumble upon my website so that isn’t a bad thing. I suppose that learning to accept the title psychic medium is an important piece of my professional journey. That being said, it is unfortunate that there is a huge market on “Need to Know Now” and it has been fully capitalized on by some less than scrupulous individuals. In fact, many so-called “psychics” have gained a reputation for taking the last dollar out of a poor person’s pocket, making a mess of this job title with their misguided intentions and sleazy tactics. It leaves me with this BIG task of rebuilding trust and breaking through the misconceptions people have about my profession before I can even get to the real work of helping them.
Being psychic means I am always engaging with people from extreme ends of the spectrum of fascination and fear. It is my hope that I can show them that there is an approach that lies somewhere in the middle which I like to call healthy curiosity. Healthy curiosity is where the magic happens in the client-psychic relationship but that is material for another blog post. For now I’d like to speak to the common misconceptions about the work we “psychics” do.
Oooo how mysterious....tell me everything!
First let’s look at what I see as misguided intrigue. There are those who call or visit me who are completely fascinated about predicting the future. They want details…the when, the who, the how. Some even like to “test” me to give them exact names and dates. While I know it is natural to want to prove or disprove psychic ability because it is something so intangible, I work hard to bring my clients to a better understanding of my role as an Intuitive Advisor. My job is to present my clients with intuitive impressions and spirit guidance for the purpose of helping them to create the happy, fulfilling lives. Yes, sometimes names and dates come to me but sometimes they do not. When I do receive these specifics there are times I feel it is important to share them, but typically I prefer to downplay their significance in favor of the insights that inspire real life transformation. So, while I cannot always tell that their great aunt’s name was Eleanor, her favorite color was green, and she died from a stroke in 1975, I can always bring to light insights and a deeper awareness of what is preventing my client from getting that love, career, health and abundance they want and deserve …sometimes these insights come through as advice I am receiving from their loving, concerned Aunt Eleanor and sometimes through other means. Often these insights also reveal unique ways that my client can manifest that perfect partner, ideal job, or big dream faster…minus the uncomfortable detours.
Unfortunately, many psychics throughout time have done a great disservice to those of us who take tremendous strides in integrity. They have led people to believe two dangerous things. The first is that they have a special gift that is unattainable for others. The second is that the future predictions they provide are destined and unchangeable. Combined, these two things lead people to either idolize or reject those of us with psychic ability. As a result, there remains this perpetual air of mystery and fear associated with my profession.
Having the "Gift"...
A good psychic knows enough to explain to his or her client that what may appear to be a “special gift” is actually an ability that we all have and can further develop. Just like some are born with more of an innate athletic ability while others gain it through persistent practice, the same is true of intuition. While the intuitive muscle is more innate for some the potential is there for anyone to strengthen and use it effectively in their own life.
The work one does with a psychic should not go on indefinitely. A good psychic knows how to open their client’s mind and direct them to their own power. To do this the psychic shows his or her client what is possible by sharing insights about the energy blocks, patterns, and wonderful possibilities they see for their clients who cannot yet see for themselves. Then, if the psychic truly has integrity, he or she will work with that person to develop their own intuitive abilities to the point that the psychic is no longer needed. If you are working with a psychic who keeps taking your money and not encouraging you to grow in this way, they do not have your best interest at heart.
Yikes...do I really want to know?
Now let us move on to another reason so many people are hesitant to seek the assistance of a psychic. Frankly, a lot of us are afraid to hear what the future may hold for us. I can completely respect this fear. People often avoid coming to me when they could really use my help because they don’t want to hear anything “scary” about their future. Their prior experiences with psychics or the experiences their friends have had led them to believe that I might tell them of some unavoidable tragedy that lies ahead. They imagine themselves losing many nights sleep in constant worry until that “predicted” event happens. Some even come telling me that a previous psychic told them they were cursed (and often the psychic asked a hefty fee for the removal of said curse). This infuriates me!
Oh, the damage-control I need to do after people come to me following readings from psychics who are ignorant to the fact that peoples’ minds, especially during times of stress, are very impressionable and should be handled with utmost care. We must take every caution not to convey information in a way that frightens, and can in fact actually create unwanted circumstances through what is commonly known as self-fulfilling prophecy. It is so very dangerous to imply that a person has no control over their future. We are creators, always attracting our circumstances into existence through the Law of Attraction. Since many of us are unaware that we are creating on this level I believe it is the professional’s responsibility to teach and a complete misuse of intuitive ability to suggest a client has no control in what is developing in their lives.
This isn’t to say that I cannot see future paths for my clients. Just that I do not see any one particular path as “set in stone.” Rather, an insight about the future presents as the “most likely” course in that moment in time and space. I often use the analogy of looking at the starry night sky from one’s back yard versus front yard. Depending upon which door we exit out of our vantage point and our view changes. Different stars appear in our sight, some more visible than others. Naturally, the brightest stars grab our focus. It is because of this focus that the brightest stars come to represent our more probable future experiences. They appear so obvious that we continue to give them our attention. We can however choose at any time to change our direction therefore taking in a different view of the sky and drawing our focus to a completely different cluster of stars, again with some stars brighter than others.
This is how I present the future when insights come to me. I am reading the future from the client’s current energetic standpoint. What is it that they are attracting? What are they expecting for their future from both the conscious and subconscious levels? I recognize that the client has control of which part of the starry sky he or she wishes to gaze upon and that direction will determine the potentials that lie ahead. If, with my intuitive abilities, I see potentials that appear unfavorable, frightening, or harmful for my client then it is my duty to gently show them how to change their direction. It is completely unethical to send them home with a sense of doom. Yes, I do believe some human lessons need to be learned but I know they can be learned with grace and ease. There is always free will. My role, as I see it, is to help my clients avoid pain and suffering in their journey towards growth by showing them alternative paths that lead to the most favorable outcomes.
On accepting this path...
Both the fascination and the fear I encounter in people can be exhausting at times. It is why I truly believe it when I hear other intuitives say that they did not pick this career path rather it those them. Our professionalism is often called in to question, our abilities tested and scrutinized, and our intentions judged by those who don’t even attempt to really understand what we do. I have attended countless dinner parties at which I find myself avoiding the awkward question of “What do you do for work?” While I am not ashamed or embarrassed by my work I choose not to engage in the fascination of those wanting me to predict their futures over cheese and crackers or endure raised eyebrows and sideways glances by those who fear I am just some oddball stranger trying to read their minds. I am proud of my career, I know I have helped many, many people, but in these brief encounters it is extremely difficult to educate people on exactly what it means to be psychic. Perhaps that is why I write blog posts like this… to reach those who seek a true understanding of the service I provide and how it can and does heal lives…and so that I can go to those parties to laugh and drink wine like the rest of them.
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It is hard to deny that we are experiencing the effects of the most confusing time in history…and yes…I venture to even say the most challenging time in history. Everyday we are presented with stories of political, social, economic, and even nature’s unrest. Simultaneously we are also witnessing the most amazing advances in our capacity to create technology and express compassion for one another when disaster strikes. The contrast surfacing in our human experience is shocking to say the least, it leaves us wondering how good and evil can co-exist so intimately in our shared time-space reality. Have we completely lost our grip or could this chaos be the result of a more perfect plan for our species?
Let’s imagine for a moment that what we believe to be chaos is just the effects of some thrill ride at an amusement park. The kind of ride that starts off slow but continuously moves faster and faster and is now travelling at unprecedented speeds. Naturally, our bodies are having a tough time acclimating. The upset in our equilibrium makes everything feel fuzzy and distorted. We might even feel as though the ground is dropping out from under us. Take this picture and apply it to our current state of affairs. Is what we are currently experiencing as a civilization truly chaos or is it the quickening of our human evolution?
Despite our minds being trained to think of time as linear, with a concrete beginning and end, there are many examples that point to the possibility that time is more circular in nature. We have all heard of the saying “history repeats itself” and indeed I believe this to be partially true. Imagine that this loop of peace, struggle, growth…peace, struggle, growth…that we humans appear to trapped in, is not a loop but rather a spiral or more accurately, a funnel. Each go-around on this funnel of time represents a shorter revolution. Each go-around brings its familiar lessons of peace, struggle, and growth to each of us in faster and faster succession. Each go-around is another yet opportunity to bring more knowledge and understanding to the challenges we face as a society but because we are moving increasingly faster the pressure is reaching epic levels of intensity.
Now if time represents the funnel, imagine that humanity represents the object traveling down through the funnel, like a coin collected in one of those coin drop donation funnels. Each coin has a “heads” and “tails” side, right? Let’s say, for this example, those sides represent our human capacity for love and hate.
As this coin picks up speed in the funnel it also rotates between heads and tails. What used to appear a longer, more drawn out expression of these human tendencies, as seen throughout history with eras of progress and strife, are now displaying themselves nanoseconds apart. We were once that coin at the wide opening of that funnel, making a lazy orbit, but we are now nearing the narrow spout where everything is a whirl of motion. In this tight space we are forced to acknowledge and accept both faces of our humanity. We can no longer deny the existence of the duality that exists within each one of us. It is mirrored in our daily lives by what we see in the news. We feel it so intensely.
Scared? Heck yeah, of course we are! We know on some instinctual level that we are nearing the end of that funnel of time. The bottom really is falling out of this ride and we are left only to trust that we are moving to a better place yet to explore. We are being re-birthed and the time we are currently in represents the pains of labor.
So go ahead, pick heads or tails! What side do you want that coin to land on? It is essential right now to choose wisely, learn at last in this eleventh hour to forgive and accept an one another. Let the choice for love be the basis for this new reality we are spinning towards.
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I am always fascinated when I see interviews with 100 year olds and they are asked that infamous question, "What do you think is the secret to a long life?" Their answers are so full of range and often lacking is the expected response, "Well, I eat a balanced diet and exercise everyday."
In search of the Fountain of Youth...
Even those of us who find it a constant struggle to maintain a healthy lifestyle secretly hope that eating right and exercise are the keys to staying young, Why is that? Well maybe because it's the one approach that appears to give us control. It's relatively straightforward, well researched, and measurable. Surprisingly however, these centenarians often tell us outlandish tales of their two-pack-a-day habits and reckless sky-diving-type behavior that in our minds should have done them in decades ago. It goes against all logic that they have reached that 100 mark and are still of sound enough mind to get in front of a camera to share their secrets with us.
While their responses to the "What is the fountain of youth?" question swing from being very general to very specific, I am struck most by what is often an underlying common thread in their statements. You must listen carefully to catch it because the true message lies in the spaces between their actual words. That common thread is this.. the secret to a long life is the ability to live each day as if it is your first...not your last. These eternally youthful souls seem to have an innate capacity to recognize that all of life is a series of re-births, each day giving us another opportunity to hit the reset button and experience life anew. So how can we take this wisdom and break it down so that we too can experience this daily renewal?
That Darwin fella was on to something...
Now, I don't wish to sound too "it's a dog-eat-dog world" here, but I think that Darwin was onto something much more relatable with his whole "survival of the fittest" business. A crucial piece of his teachings gets lost on us amongst all of the "genetic mutation theory and the propagation of species" rhetoric and that is that the key to remaining alive and forever youthful is adaption. Let's, for a moment, set aside all of the complexities we learned about adaption theories in high school and think of adaption in a much more practical way. What if we all became more consciously adaptable in our daily lives? What would that look like?
Conscious adaption means that when we are faced with choices that require us to either hold on to our old ways of being or adopt new ways of being, we pick the choice that encourages life above all else. With conscious adaption we recognize that life is not a line from start to finish but a circle (a "life cycle") within which contains many smaller cycles of beginnings and endings. When we acknowledge these mini-deaths and re-births as a way of life it becomes easier for us to decide what needs to be shed (death), what needs to persist (labor), and what needs to be created (birth) in order to keep our life force strong.
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Conscious adaption asks that we be like the willow tree, strong but flexible, always willing to bend with the forces of nature so that we don't break. It tells us not to resist change when change is what's called for. It encourages us to remain as curious as a child, delighting in learning new things. It requires us to be forever open-minded to new possibilities and observant to solutions that naturally arise out of every problem. As we adapt we are constantly re-birthing and aligning to the vibration and frequency that our modern world is operating from. When we fail to adapt, be it from stubbornness or ignorance, we naturally fall behind. Aging too soon being the unwanted result.
So yes, of course, eat your salads, move your body, and get your 8 hours of sleep but don't forget to keep a mindset of renewal everyday. Don't cling to what no longer serves you in this forever-changing world we live in. Be around 100 years from now to share your unique story!
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1. Listen to your gut
I'm here to tell you that sometimes you need to ask your head and your heart to step aside for a moment. Truth is they are not always the best guides when it comes to making decisions. Why is that? Well because your brain wants to over-analyze, debate, and create an endless list of pros and cons that can riddle you with doubt and delay you from taking timely action. Your heart, on the other hand, is in search of the most comfortable feeling state which is not always going to get you to a better place. Your gut however, is your power center. It is strongly connected to our Solar plexus chakra, the energy vortex that gives us the will to create in this world. So listen to those butterflies of excitement that arise deep in your torso, even if they feel a bit like fear. Those butterflies are telling you that you are in alignment with that choice. However, if you experience more of a sinking feeling it is a sign to steer clear of that choice. Gut sensations are very helpful in giving you real-time guidance towards the path best suited for you!
2. Clear the static
Do what you need to do to adopt a positive mindset. Meditate, go for a walk in nature, watch some inspirational speakers on YouTube. Whatever bag of tricks you use to get you from that place of self-doubt and fear to a place of confidence and possibility ....use them! This is essential before you take any action if you want that action to produce results.
3. Ask for neon signs
I'm sure that those of you reading this are familiar with the age-old advice of asking the Universe to provide a sign. Unfortunately, most of us have not yet learned how to fully harness this incredible technique. We ask vaguely for a sign to come but chances are we miss it when it does or question its validity because we never set up the proper parameters. Next time you seek a clear, unmistakable sign to help guide a decision why not give that sign a symbol and a time frame. For example, rather than the usual, "Universe please give me a sign!" why not try something more along the lines of "Universe please show me a yellow balloon (or insert another somewhat uncommon symbol here) within the next 24 hours if I am meant to do xyz." Chances are much better that your sign will arrive and you will have no doubt that it is giving you the guidance you asked for without waiting and wondering for eternity. Want to learn more about how to ask for signs check out one of my favorite books on asking for signs, Sacred Signs, by Adrian Calabrese, PhD.
Trust that you will land on your feet! Trust that this benevolent Universe has your back! If you've listened to your gut, cleared the static, and received your signs chances are you are making the right decision, but if you find out that you've messed up trust that you will get another chance to course-correct and get it right. There is magic in action, so like they say, "Strike when the iron is hot." Don't wait around waiting for more and more evidence. Put everything you have in you into taking that next step and watch the miracles happen.
5. Give thanks
Gratitude has a way of expanding what we want. So if you've made a decision and have taken the first step down some new path why not pause a moment to give the Universe thanks. Say thanks for helping me to find the courage (even if you still feel shaky), thanks for supplying for all my needs (even if your bank account says $7.11), and thanks for bringing me amazing results (even if you are a long way from your destination).
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Hello dear readers! My name is Traci Davis. I am an Intuitive Advisor (Psychic Medium who specializes in spiritual mentoring). This blog is designed to bring you tips, tools, and product recommendations for living a life aligned with your soul's purpose.